Being nice, being kind

Just recently I noticed – more powerfully than ever – that there are two kinds of nice-ness around. Some people are nice – without thinking twice about it – while others are nice to get something in return. Then they get very upset if they don’t…

I think I can say that for the great majority of time in my life – I’ve been nice to people. Not because someone taught me so – and not because anyone told me to be that way.

Maybe I was just following my instinct that was telling me that was the way to go. Or maybe I was nice to others because that made me feel good.

Photo “Nice” – courtesy of andysmith

However, as I grew up, it became much easier for me to be nicer to others – than I was to myself. It took me a while to understand that the best sort of kindness starts by accepting and loving myself first. Once I do that, I in a way shine all those positive emotions that I feel for myself – on everyone around me.

Anyway, from now on I will pay even more attention to being nice because that’s who I really am, a nice person is who I want to be, and nice things are what I want to do. Also, nice people are who I want to be surrounded with.

A Kind Face at the End of the Day
Photo “A Kind Face at the End of the Day: This is Zak in mellow mood at the end of the day. He loves to play in the evening and is a real friend. There is not a vicious bone in his body.” – courtesy of Jan 130

I fully understand that whatever I give, it returns to me – multiplied. And last but not least, I no longer expect the receiver of my kindness to be the bearer of my blessings…


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Most of all Daria enjoys creating, designing, taking photos of, writing about and sharing all the beautiful, cheerful things and moments. She finds them everywhere she goes. And tons of fun people, too!

Dori - August 11, 2011

I love this post. I especially love the last line. And thank you for visiting me at my blog 🙂

Till - August 12, 2011

Great know-how! I have been searching for everything such as this for some time finally. Thanks!

Jan - August 24, 2011

I like this blog, Daria! Thank you so much for featuring my dog Zak here. He is still the same …. I’m glad you liked my photo of him so much. I’ve bookmarked your page because I too feel that being kind is one of the most complicated things – and rewarding things in life. Not sure how to use Blogs……. but I’m sure I’ll learn through you!

Thanks again – Jan

    Daria - August 24, 2011

    Thank you, Jan,

    Zak impersonates niceness – in a way – probably that’s why your photo looked perfect to me to include in this blog posts. Also, I have to admit I have a soft spot for Pomeranians. They are the prettiest breed, no matter what color. I have a Chiranian (Chihuahua/Pomeranian mix) dog myself – but Ally doesn’t like taking pictures and she is quite feisty. However, she is loyal and funny/entertaining.

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