By Daria / September 21, 2012 Share Tweet Pin Share Share Everyone heard of the saying like father like son. There’s an identical one in Slovenian language “jabolko ne pade daleč od drevesa” (an apple does not fall down far away from the apple tree). But how often is that really true? I started thinking about these things this week when one of my rose bushes, that’s been thriving in one of my large planters for two or three years now, caught my attention with a very unique bloom. Instead of being almost burgundy red, like the rest of the blossoms from the same Cinco De Mayo rose, this one looks like this (see photo below since picture is worth a thousand words anyway – and I can’t even think of any words that would give justice the coloration of these petals). . . Unique Rose – Photo C 2012: Daria . . Like father like son? In this case it sure doesn’t look like it – because the rest of the rose bush, on which this beauty is showing off its uniqueness, looks like this: . . Cinco De Mayo rose bush – Photo C 2012: Daria . . In reflection, this unusual flower’s behavior reminds me of the ways people act – and choose to be. Like father like son saying can be used in a positive or in a judgmental way. In my experience, at one point or another in our life, we all blame our parents, schoolmates, friends or coworkers for certain things that happen, for the circumstances we find ourselves in, or even for our own behavior. And it’s true that we’ve all been trained into certain kinds of expected behavior throughout our childhood and school years, by our parents, teachers and the society. However, for the most part, and especially as adults, we make our own decisions, moment by moment, every day. So am I entitled to hold on to an excuse that I am a bad mother because my mother wasn’t very interested in raising kids and spending quality time with me? Or, does it sound right that I am an alcohol addict because my father was a drunk? For myself, I decided to learn from behavior and lifestyles that I cannot appreciate. I choose to be different, even if I have to figure out my own ways to be different sometimes. That makes me a better, stronger person and throughout the years I’ve received plenty of confirmations that I made the right decision. So, like father like son? Only if I (consciously) choose to be alike! . . . .