The question How to Change Past Events has been on my mind for quite a while.
And why on earth would I want to do that, you might ask?
The answer is simple.
My heart tells me that if I find a way to change my past, that will greatly better my future as well!
Hence, I've been seeking and searching and trying different methods of forgiving - myself and others. And, regardless of how hard I tried, I never had any lasting results. Even though in my mind, the fact that holding grudges makes no sense whatsoever is perfectly clear and logical. But when a memory of an unpleasant event returns I can feel the pain again. No matter if the perceived wrong-doing is my fault or someone else's.
Still, I persisted in my search for the way around this unpleasantness. Until it finally dawned on me that instead of with seemingly impossible forgiveness, I can overwhelm my memories with more pleasant versions of them!
“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”
~ Les Brown
Can Memories Be Changed?
"Not only are our memories faulty (anyone who has uncovered old diaries knows that), but more importantly Schiller says our memories change each time they are recalled. ... The slightly changed memory is now embedded as “real,” only to be reconstructed with the next recall."
So, not only can memories be changed on purpose - they are changing constantly - even the scientists believe so.
Doesn't that sound like a reason more to shift any unpleasant thought about the past into a happy one?
Everyone has to choose the answer that's right for them but to me, a resounding Yes feels like a great relief.
“Everything is possible. The impossible just takes longer.”
My Change-Past-Events Method
The way I go about it is very simple. Every time I feel the tension rising in my stomach as a reaction to a certain thought, I consciously stop it. I say to myself, "Wait a minute, that's not what happened!" Then I describe a pain-causing past moment with a generally positive statement. Some examples:
We parted as friends.
We spent some really fun times together.
Oh, how we laughed!
We worked together like a well-oiled machine.
We had some wonderful conversations.
Most of the time this first step alone makes me smile. An if not, I keep adding on to it. I am gradually getting into more details that can be totally made up according to my personal preference.
And if any of this makes sense to you or even resonates, go ahead and give it a try!
Oh, and do let me know about your own methods of changing the past - and in the process improving your present and future. Leave comments below!